I invited several guests to my wedding knowing they would not be able to attend, but, I invited them in spite of this because all the other cousins, co-workers, friends from that group, etc. were receiving invitations and I didn't want to leave anyone out. Now it seems these folks all feel obligated to give gifts. It was not my intention to get gifts, but to include them in the group of people who were receiving invitations. Now some are asking where they should send a gift. Is it okay to say, "Thank you, but please don't send a gift since you can't attend."? I feel bad receiving gifts from folks who can't attend.
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Re: [julielee] gift offers from wedding guests not attending
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Dear Julielee,
I love you!! Sorry, but you are such a sweetheart, it just couldn't be held back. So many are focused only on gifts and feel that it is their right just because they decided to marry. You are a breath of fresh air. Thank you for making my decade.
Yes, it is perfectly appropriate to inform your potential guests that you did not invite them for the gifts.
gift offers from wedding guests not attending
