I'm in 2 weddings in the same weekend at opposite sides of the state, and frankly, I'm just annoyed with weddings all together. The reason I have agreed to be in both of them is because my old roommate from college asked me to be in her wedding l2 years ago. Then my best friend got engaged and her date landed on the day after the first wedding I agreed to be in. I could not say no to my best friend, but I had already committed to the other a year before. My BF couldn't change her date.
Between both weddings I am just continually broke. All the parties that come with a wedding have pretty much been back to back. I don't want to be a cheapskate, but it's really hard for me to keep up. I'm annoyed that all of my money is basically going to these two weddings.
2 Bridal Showers and gifts
2 Dresses, Shoes
2 Bachelorette Parties
Hair and Makeup for both
So I am spending approximately $1765 on both weddings. This does not include the wedding gift.
After forking out so much money already, how much is appropriate to give as a wedding gift? They are both having their weddings at really expensive places and are paying almost $200 a head. I am bringing a guest so does that mean I have to shell out $400 per wedding in the envelope?
I just don't know if I can afford $800 in one weekend.
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Re: how much money to give as wedding gift
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Please be sure to search for other posts since we have answered this question many times before.
First, all of your expenditures seem pretty standard to me, however, the shower and bachelorette are both optional events. The shower shouldn't be too large and you would have had to agree to participate or host the shower. For the bachelorette, pretty much of the same advice, except that each woman attending pays for herself and a portion of the bride's way. It's just a shame that you had already agreed to be in the first wedding.
Regarding the gift, there is no magic equation for a value or amount to spend on a wedding gift. You shouldn't know how much is being spent on your meal and this is not the way to determine your gift. Choose a gift, or an amount of money, based on your budget and relationship with the bride. It doesn't have to be an expensive gift. Maybe if you're crafty you could make something as a keepsake. Just be sure the gift is thoughtful. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: how much money to give as wedding gift
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Absolutely! Plus, it is perfectly appropriate for all of the bridesmaids to give a group gift. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
how much money to give as wedding gift
on both weddings. This does not include the wedding gift. 
