We really don't want anyone to get us any gifts or money. We would like to keep this informal. Is there a way to say in the invitation that we don't want gifts or money, or better yet, "if you want to give a gift, make a donation to XYZ Charity"? Thank you so much.
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Jul 29, 2005, 12:14 PM
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Re: [caitlin] informal wedding with no gifts
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Dear Charitable,
You are a breath of fresh air. So many people are trying to find out how they can tell everyone that they only want cash. Yikes. Thank you for being so kind and considerate.
Unfortunately we are still bound by the rule of not mentioning anything about gifts on a wedding invitation. The reason is a good one. Mentioning gifts implies that we are expecting gifts. So, we only have two alternatives. One is the old fashion method of spreading the word by word of mouth. Gossip spreads quickly so often this information does too.
The other method works well for those who have guests who visit the internet. You could have all of this information on a wedding web site. You could even send informal save the date cards with information about your site on an enclosure. If you mention it on the card, please ensure that the page with your preferences for gifts are on a page other than the first one. A link to web sites concerning your favorite charities could be listed on your site.
Re: [caitlin] informal wedding with no gifts
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