Two friends just got married, and even though I wasn't invited to the wedding, I'd like to send a gift. I'll try to give you a sense of the situation so maybe you can help me decide on a gift.
I have only known them for about 18 months, but I consider them to be pretty close friends and care about them very much. I am closer with the groom than the bride. They just graduated from college, and I am still in college. His family is not well-off, hers is, but he's the chivalrous kind of guy that feels like he should support her (and doesn't really like getting gifts). Since they're just now moving in together, I know they need lots of the nuts and bolts-type stuff (kitchenware, linens, etc). I also know where they're registered.
Even though I'm in college, I am able and happy to spend a fair amount of money ($100-ish) on a gift for them, but I don't want it to be awkward (spend too much). I think maybe a check would be too up-front. For some reason buying them something from their registry seems too formal (or something?) because I'm younger than them (or something?). At the same time, I don't want to get them something they don't need/won't use. I've thought about getting them tickets to a show/event they'd enjoy or sending gift certificate or making a donation to a personally-significant organization on their behalf.
What are your thoughts? Should I just go the practical route and send something from the registry?
Also, the wedding was last weekend (I knew about it well in advance). Should I have sent the gift before it?
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Re: [70reve4rotag] not invited but want to send gift
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If you weren't invited to the wedding then you're not obligated to send a gift, but, it's very generous of you to send one. Gifts are typically sent before the wedding but sending now isn't an issue.
Based on the information given, I would select something from within your budget from the registry. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
not invited but want to send gift
