My 39 year old son is getting married again. His bride who is also 39 has never been married. They are both gainfully employed. He has two children from the first marriage. We gave him a honeymoon for over 10K for his first marriage. We also gave him over a quarter of a million dollars over the last few years to buy a house, pay off his divorce etc. For what I find inexplicable reasons his new bride's parents are paying for an 80,000 wedding. I find the whole thing mystifying, at any rate what is a suitable size check present for my husband and myself to give? We have been bullied into paying for a second rehearsal dinner. Most of my family and my husband's family is now dead or live too far away to attend a second wedding.
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Anything the bride's family contributes should be considered a generous gift to the bridal couple. As you mention, most couples are already self sufficient when they decide to marry and don't need the help of their parents. So, parent's are no longer obligated to pay for their children's weddings and the days of, the bride's parent's pay for this and the groom's parents pay for that, are long gone.
There is no need to feel bullied. Discuss your finances with your husband and decide together what amount, if any, fits into your budget. Gifts should have nothing to do with how many guests you will have coming or what the bride's parents are giving. Give what you can and what you want. Remember, what seems generous to one person may seem like a little to another. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
present for son's second wedding
My 39 year old son is getting married again. His bride who is also 39 has never been married. They are both gainfully employed. He has two children from the first marriage. We gave him a honeymoon for over 10K for his first marriage. We also gave him over a quarter of a million dollars over the last few years to buy a house, pay off his divorce etc. For what I find inexplicable reasons his new bride's parents are paying for an 80,000 wedding. I find the whole thing mystifying, at any rate what is a suitable size check present for my husband and myself to give? We have been bullied into paying for a second rehearsal dinner. Most of my family and my husband's family is now dead or live too far away to attend a second wedding.
