My good friend (who lives in the same city as I) is getting married in another state (far away). She had sent me a save the date card. I was planning on attending and then decided I could not afford it and told her I would not be able to attend. The other day she told me that she would not be sending me an invitation since she already knew I would definitely not be attending. She said she knew it was tacky not too... I did not know what to say. My feelings were sort of hurt. Do you think I should send her a wedding gift if I do not get an invitation? Should I just forget about it and send her a gift anyway?
This is another reason why I do not believe in that old, tired rule about an invitation obligating a guest to send a gift. Your friend probably didn't want to send you an invitation because you said you couldn't attend and she didn't want to obligate you to send a gift. Now you feel as if you were slighted. With these old rules no one wins and some feel badly. So, send a gift if you wish. You are only obligated by your feelings for her.
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