My partner to be and I will be getting married this coming February in Costa Rica. We will be sending out invitations inviting friends and family to join us with the understanding that most will not be able to attend the actual wedding. We are planning to have a post wedding reception in Canada where we are from. However, the problem lies here. We will not be living in Canada. We actually work and live in China and we could be moved all over this lovely world of ours for various postings. We do not have any immediate plans to live back in North America.
So we will not be registering at all for gifts. Packing will be made easier this way. However, my family is big on weddings and gift giving and I suspect they will ask numerous times about how to go about giving a gift. My partner to be and I would like to have a way to broach the topic of gift giving for my parents to tell my relatives that we would appreciate cash instead of gifts. I was thinking that I would inform my family that instead of giving us a gift, use the money they would have spent on a gift to deposit into an account for us to access when worldly troubles arise--and trouble can arise quite quickly in Third World Nations--where we will be stationed often.
Would this be an appropriate request? And how would one go about the request in an appropriate manner??
We have very many posts concerning this. It may be helpful to read them. Many people cannot accept gifts for a variety of reasons. So your situation may seem unique, but really isn't any different from any of the others.
We never tell our guest of exactly what they should give us, as gifts are not obligatory. Only those actually attending the wedding need ship a gift to you. If family asks what you want or need, then you or someone close could state that all you need is cash.
Another Money vs Gifts scenario
