My fiancee' and I are 30 something with kids and have most of the toys that we need to include 2 sets of china, silverware etc. There really isn't anything we need other than paying for wedding which is coming out of our pockets since it's the second one. I understand that if we don't register at all we run the risk of getting things we don't want and can't return. Do you think that risk outweighs the hope that most of the guests will figure out that we're just hoping for monetary gifts.
Any suggestions that will still keep within the bounds of good taste.
It is not obligatory that you register for your wedding. Allow guests the option to choose to give something they want you to have or if they choose to give cash all the better. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
I agree with Nancy. If you really don't want to receive any gifts then spread the word through friends and family. Do not depend on the assumption of receiving monetary wedding gifts to help pay for your reception. Host the wedding you can comfortably afford, and if your guests do give a monetary gift then, by all means, spend the money any way you see fit. If you receive a gift that you cannot use why not consider donating it to those who don't have "all the toys they need"? Right now there are people in three of our US states who don't even have a place to live.
Try to focus on why you're having this wedding and you'll come up with your "right answer". Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I would also add that your assumption that guests should "figure out" to give you money just because you decide to marry is not 'within the bounds of good taste'. Please remember that a marriage is supposed to be a joyful event and shouldn't include a price tag for those who are asked to share in your joy. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Not registering?
