We'd rather have money than a gift from the registry
My fiance and I registered at two locations for a gift registry. We have a personal wedding site and want to add information about our gift registry. We have been living together for a few years, so we would prefer guests give a monetary gift. How do I word it so it is proper etiquette. I want to say we are registered at "store name" and "Store name", but we have been living together for a few years, and hope to buy a house, so a monetary gift would be appreciated. I don't want to sound rude in anyway, what is the proper wording?
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Re: [amcs] We'd rather have money than a gift from the registry
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Dear amcs,
There really is no polite way to ask for cash. In fact, many now won't give any type of gift when the couple is requesting money. It is as if the guest is being charged a fee to share your day with you or as if they are only being invited for their cash donation for your future. This is not to say that it is improper to want money or to create an account to collect cash. This is probably the most polite way to go. There are businesses that help couples set up accounts for their guests to contribute to. You could list this on your wedding website. But, be prepared for negative comments and for some not to give anything.
Please do not list your registries on the first page or in your invitations.
Re: [amcs] We'd rather have money than a gift from the registry
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It is not appropriate to ask for cash. Trust that many guests do give money and gift certificates, especially if they know that you are already established with the basics. Keep your registry realistic (don't keep adding just so people will have something to buy), and leave the gift or cash decision to your guests. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
We'd rather have money than a gift from the registry
