wedding gift registry guests invited only to the reception
Hi!
I have a unique situation and desperately need advice on etiquette and wording for an out of the ordinary wedding registry.
My wedding was originally set for June 25th, unfortunately my father was scheduled for knee replacement surgery on May 18th. Not knowing how he would fair, my fiance and his mother agreed to move the wedding ceremony up to May 15th allowing my father to walk me down the aisle and give me away. We only invited immediate family and plan to host a Hawaiian Luau reception on August 13th.
Many of our close friends and family were excluded from the wedding ceremony but have received wedding announcement/save the date cards for the August Luau. My question is, since my husband (42 & only marriage) and I (32, second marriage - eloped) both owned homes and have an overabundance of furniture and linens etc, we have decided that the only item we truly want is a jacuzzi spa. We have coordinated with a local retail store to receive donations towards the purchase of our spa, but are absolutely clueless as to the appropriate wording for the reception invitation insert.
Please advise how to word and announce our truly out-of-the-ordinary wedding registry. We don't want to offend anyone, but we couldn't think of anything we truly wanted more than our dream jacuzzi spa.
Thanks in advance for your insight and assistance!
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Jul 4, 2005, 4:59 PM
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Re: [ImShugz] Out of the ordinary registry
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Dear Out of the ordinary,
I'm sorry, but it is never appropriate to include gift registry information in a wedding or reception invitation. Plus, unfortunately, gifts are given for the wedding, not the reception. Yes, many people bring gifts to the reception but this is usually when the reception is directly after the wedding. A wedding reception is not considered a gift giving event.
Wedding gifts are supposed to be sent to the couple's home or the bride's mother's home.
You could try registering for the spa and getting the word out by word of mouth (the only appropriate method) because some may want to give you a gift anyway; many will.
wedding gift registry guests invited only to the reception
