I'm due to marry in just over four months and have a rather unusual situation whereby my fiance and I live and work in different parts of the world. Our professions will keep us apart for several years ahead but we are eventually planning on buying a property in my hometown, where the wedding is also being held.
The gift registry is an issue as we will not have a home straight away.
A friend of mine who was in a similar situation had a wonderdul idea of choosing three major items from which guests were able to choose one and contribute whatever amount they wished. The couple received a list of all those who contributed to each item with the amount being disclosed.
I understand from reading other posts that including anything to do with gifts in the invitation is a no-no. However, in this case where most of our guests are from interstate/overseas, what would be the most suitable way to inform people without being pushy? Essentially, we do not really believe in wedding registries but without a doubt, friends and family would be wondering what to do in the case of a gift because we will not have a common home in the near future.
We have agreed that choosing several big items for the future would be much more realistic than having to go through a department store and choosing a variety of items, since we live in different countries.
If you believe we ought to notify guests, what is the most descreet way? Can something be included on a seperate paper?
This would be handled just exactly like it is with all weddings. If people ask what you would like, you could give them the information about the gift preference. Other than that, it is still impolite to include this information in any wedding correspondences.
This information could also be included on a wedding website--not on the first page.
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