Hello and thank you so much for your expert advice. I've found this site to be very helpful.
My question is VERY similar to many of the others, however I haven't found one that addresses exactly my dilemma:
My fiance and I are having a small ceremony (only family), and I would like to send announcements to the appropriate people. I understand that they are NOT to be used as a plea for gifts. However, people keep telling me that folks will WANT to buy us gifts, and it would be better to register so they know where to shop for us rather than having to guess. I certainly don't want people to feel obligated, but so many people have said the same thing, I'm starting to believe them. I'm hoping that there is an answer besides "if people want to buy a gift they will, don't mention it in the announcement". There must be a tasteful way of doing it...I hope?
Warm regards, B to B
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Nope, sorry, there is no tasteful way to mention your registry with wedding announcements, sorry.
When you send a wedding announcement, you are just letting people know that you have been married. You'll send these out only to the people who really need to know, after the wedding. Since announcements don't oblige the recipient to send a gift, there is no need to include directions to places where you're registered for wedding gifts. After all, that would infer that you are expecting gifts and would confuse the recipient, possibly making them think they should be sending one.
Iknow you don't want to hear this, but if a person wants to send a wedding gift, and they want to know where you're registered, they will either ask you, ask a family member or some will search online.
In any event, try not to focus so much on gifts. I'm sure that you're not getting married just to score a few trinkets, right?It's just stuff... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I couldn't agree more. Well said. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
A slightly different annoucement question
