I'm having an informal park wedding and the invitations are already sent. I didn't search wedding etiquette sites before wording them or sending them, but now it appears I should have never referred to gifts at all (according to what I'm reading on your site). I know it's too late, but I still don't see what is wrong with informing guests how much we would appreciate them at our wedding / reception and making it clear how we feel about gifts. This is the second wedding for both of us and we don't need anything. Not only did the invitation say "No gifts Please", it also said "Children are welcome!" and "Change of clothes optional for softball and volleyball". I was hoping the mention of no gifts saved people from guessing or making phone calls and if I was a guest, I would appreciate reading that since so many people do expect gifts for showers, weddings, parties, etc.
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Aug 16, 2005, 2:45 PM
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Re: [v123] Announced "No Gifts Please" on wedding invitation
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Dear Very Generous Person,
I agree that it does make it easier for the guests. But, when gifts are mentioned on the invitation, the emphasis is on gifts, even when you are saying no. It is also stating that you were expecting gifts, which we are not supposed to be expecting.
I don't think anyone will think poorly of you for everything you wrote on your invitation. Your message is positive.
Announced "No Gifts Please" on wedding invitation
