My son is getting married in August. It will be a very small ceremony ( their choice-immediate family only- total 8 people).
Is it acceptable to send announcements to all our friends after the wedding since most of them will know prior anyway? I don't want to seem like we are asking for gifts, but to be honest, I have gone to weddings (sometimes second and third weddings) for all of our friends, always giving a nice gift. This is my only child and he certainly could use some gifts.
If acceptable, how should the announcement be worded?
I've never done this before- is it inappropriate of me??
The wedding isn't about the parents any more. So, sending announcements to your friends, unless they are also very close friends to your son, just may seem like a plea for gifts, although this should never be the case.
The couple sends these out now unless they ask you to send some to your side of the family in their name.
It isn't polite or fair to expect or want your friends to give gifts to your son and his wife just because they married. If they wish to, they will on their own. If they already know about the future wedding, they could give now. But, we should never expect them to.
We give because we want to give. We don't give because we expect something in the future. So, if giving to friend's children isn't something you wish to do, please don't. But, the one big difference in the cases you mentioned, was the fact that you were invited and attended these weddings. So, of course as a good guests you would give a gift. Your friends are not invited. So, they are under no obligation to give.
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