My problem was a few layers. When we announced our engagement and wedding date, we were already married in New York a few weeks before. This was not common knowledge to most of our family and friends. We set about planning a formal ceremony and reception and even mailed, "Save the date cards". My husband and I have been living in separate states and the plan was for me to relocate after the wedding. Due to finances and other stressors we have decided to cancel both the formal ceremony and the reception. How do we go about doing so and announce that we eloped in one shot.
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It is best that this happened since hosting a wedding when you're already married isn't polite and is, well, lying. That's no way to start of a marriage.
Typically, to cancel a wedding like this, we would suggest sending out informal letters or cards saying the wedding has been canceled. But, in your case, there may be feelings involved. For anyone close to you, a telephone call, if not a face to face meeting would be best. As a parent, I sure would hate to learn about my son or daughter's marriage by mail. I would suggest calling as many of your friends and family as possible. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. And, this should be handled very carefully so as not to appear that you just want gifts because you married. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Announcing Cancelled Wedding and Reception
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That's no way to start of a marriage. 
