Having 2 Weddings -- one private -- one for family - HELP
We have decided that we want to do a private ceremony for us first, and then have a 2nd ceremony later for family to attend. I hate to have terrible etiquette, but I'd like to be able to send out one thing that says we are announcing our marriage in a private ceremony that will be held on xx date and then give the information regarding the invitation at the ceremony for friends and family to attend approx 2 months later. The family doesn't live near us and we want to have our private ceremony near our home and then go to where the majority of close family is to have a ceremony in which all can be included. For this reason I would like to combine an announcement and invitation in one. There will be no formal reception or anything. Help, please.
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Jan 18, 2006, 5:19 PM
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Re: [almondjenn] Having 2 Weddings -- one private -- one for family - HELP
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Dear 2 Weddings,
Honestly, there is no way for this to be viewed positively. This is because you will be inviting guest to view a wedding for married people. It will most likely be viewed as silly, improper, and possibly a plea for gifts, especially since you are not having a reception.
I don't have a clue how you could do this. An announcement is not included with an invitation. These are two different things. Plus, can you imagine what someone would think when they read that you have been married, but are going to have a wedding soon? I can hear the, "Huh?" now. This just may be embarrassing for you.
It is best to either wait to marry with your family or marry and have a party with your family later celebrating your wedding.
You could also marry and then have a vow renewal later. But, this is often viewed negatively when it is done so soon after a wedding. So, it is imperative to follow some common sense etiquette. Please read about vow renewal etiquette.
Having 2 Weddings -- one private -- one for family - HELP
