How to tell sister she's not invited after sending her a save the date wedding invitation
Sorry so long. Admittedly, I made an error. My fiance has a large family, which includes one mainly estranged sister who he doesn't get along with and her eight children. Because we are having a very small, intimate destination ceremony, we sent save-the-dates very early to announce our engagement. We did send her one. Since then there has been a major falling out between the sister and my fiance's mom. We have decided it would be best not to invite her, but we are not in contact with her. The only person who is is my fiance's dad (parents are divorced), but I hate to put him in the position of breaking the news. My future mother-in-law suggested sending her an announcement before the wedding, but I'm concerned that it would be misconstrued as an invitation. I have a feeling there is not an easy way to deal with this, but do you have any suggestions on how to deal with this as inoffensively as possible?
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Re: [gemmablur] How to tell sister she's not invited after sending her a save the date wedding invitation
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Dear Gemmablur,
She was sent a save the date, so she is invited. We don't send announcements to those invited or before the wedding to those who are not. If she is being un-invited, it needs to be done personally and not through a letter. Your fiance needs to call her or visit her in person. There is no easy or painless way to do this.
How to tell sister she's not invited after sending her a save the date wedding invitation
