How to tell relative she's not invited to the wedding
My fiance and I both have huge families. We are both close with our extended families (parents cousins, second cousins etc), but not all. We are having a large wedding by most standards (300) but still have had to make the necessary cuts. I have a relative who I only have contact with online. In fact, she only knows I am engaged because of congrats messages other people have left me on facebook. She is not invited to the wedding. She has asked me for the wedding date several times online. I was able to avoid answering, but today finally told her the date and now she thinks she's invited since she says she'll maek her calendar. How do I gently tell her she is not invited? Please help, even my mother who is Miss Manners is not sure how to handle this one.
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It would have been better to tell her from the moment she asked about the wedding, but at this point, just explain that your guest list is huge, while your venue is not. You're sorry that you cannot invite the entire family. Most people understand that weddings are costly and that sometimes the guest list must be limited. Hopefully your cousin will be one of those people. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. The sooner, the better. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
How to tell relative she's not invited to the wedding
