My daughter is getting married next year. We have told the groom's family we need to get a preliminary guest list so we know how many people we are dealing with. Our maximum the venue will hold is 200 people. The grooms mom just sent me a list of 98 people she wants to invite.(this does not include her sons friends, just their family friends). But out of that 98, she thinks realistically only 34 will attend due to age, distance, etc. Since we have strict limit to how many guests can come, I am uncomfortable sending out invitations to people assuming they aren't coming. What if they would come? We would end up with too many people. I would appreciate advice on the proper way to handle this type of situation. Thank you!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
May 16, 2007, 5:21 PM
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Re: [Miss Lola] Inviting People Who Won't Come
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Dear Miss Lola,
Since the couple creates the guest list these days, it should be their choice of who is invited. But, I agree with you. It isn't polite to invite guests the host knows cannot attend. Many still view the invitation as an obligation for a gift. So, this may appear as if she is just fishing for gifts. Plus, all could attend.
The wedding really isn't a social event for parents any more. Only those family friends who are close to the couple should be invited. The couple has the last say no matter who is paying.
Inviting People Who Won't Come
