Recent deceased parent, how do I re-word my announcement
This is a complicated situation, so here goes:
My wedding is in a couple of weeks now, and our invitations have been sent stating that both my parents were hosting. Unfortunately, my mother (MOB) passed away in an accident 1 1/2 months before our wedding. People that we couldn't invite and knew about the wedding, are inquiring about invitations, because they were at the funeral.
We planned on sending announcements, but I don't know how to word it now that my mother has passed. My Dad has been great in trying to explain it to be small and private ceremony. I don't want him to have to explain it over and over again, with all he has been going through. I was hoping that I could just add a symbolic cross after her name. I also want to make clear we are not asking for gifts and that it was a small and private ceremony. I feel greedy that we aren't canceling the wedding but I know my Mom would be upset if we did.
How can I state these things without sounding heartless?
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Re: Recent deceased parent, how do I re-word my announcement
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Dear Amyj,
My sincerest sympathies to your family. And, you aren't being greedy by going through with your plans.
Wedding announcements are sent after the wedding, not before because these could be confused with invitations. Plus, it just seems very strange and a bit impolite to do so. It is like announcing that you are marrying and they are not good enough to be invited.
People really shouldn't be asking about being invited to the wedding. If they ask your father, he could direct them to you. You are, after all, the one getting married.
We never mention gifts on wedding announcements. If anyone asks about gifts, you can inform them of your views. If you mention your mother's name on your announcement, it could appear like this: Mr. John Brown has the honour of announcing the marriage of Amy Jay (also the daughter of the late Mrs. ... ) This would be listed under your name.
Recent deceased parent, how do I re-word my announcement
