Save the Date Card with no follow up wedding invitation
I live in Tennessee, and in April I received a save the date card for an August wedding in Utah. The card simply lists the bride and groom, the date, and the town and has a link to an event web site that provided additional information on the time and place of the ceremony and a link to contact the groom, but no RSVP facility. I presumed, that I would eventually recieve a more formal invitation, but nothing has arrived. I am in a quandary as to whether my presence is actually wanted or not or whether even a card or gift would be appropriate. The party getting married and I are not on congenial terms, and I suspect the "save the date" card was a bone tossed at the pressure of another relative. There is no address to send a gift to other than a PO Box. Should I send a polite card, or since this was an "internet inferred" invitation, would an e-card be appropriate? If the communication I received is totally devoid of etiquette, would I be rude by totally ignoring the ceremony? One friend has suggested a book on wedding etiquette would be an appropriate gift.
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Re: [hurtigruten] Save the Date Card with no follow up wedding invitation
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Dear Tennessee Guest,
The invitation may just be a bit late. Depending on when in August the wedding is scheduled it could just be a few days late. Everyone who receives a Save the Date is supposed to receive an invitation and there is still some time for it to arrive.
A Save the Date doesn't usually require an RSVP, but often there is a reference to a wedding web site. This site keeps all of the guests up to date on the couple's status.
I am one of a few etiquette specialist who do not believe that wedding gifts are obilgatory. So, it is your choice to purchase a gift or no. But, a card, not an e-card, is proper etiquette.
They really have done nothing wrong in consideration to wedding etiquette, besides perhaps being a bit late with their invitations. Now, if they do not follow up with an invitation, that would be improper.
Save the Date Card with no follow up wedding invitation
