I received a "save-the-date" card from a friend of a friend back at the holidays. I thought it was a little odd because I do not know this couple very well, however several mutual friends were being invited, so I was planning on going.
The wedding is in 5 weeks and I just found out that invitations went out 3 weeks ago and I have yet to receive one. Even though I am not close with this couple, I am still upset at the thought of not being invited since I was asked to "save-the-date". I even planned my vacation around this so I would be able to attend.
I am not looking to ocmfront the bride and groom or start any trouble. Just for my own piece of mind I am wondering if this bad etiquette on their part?
Is it possible your invitation was lost? It's od that they would send you a save the date card and then not send an invitation. Was there an RSVP with the save the date? Can you ask some other friends if they could possibly find out something for you? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I had a friend check in with her and she said that she "cut" people from her list that she hadn't talked to in awhile because the list was getting too long.
FYI-there was notan RSVP to the Save the Date, however, when I saw her a few months ago, I told her that I was looking forward to coming and that I had scheduled my vacation in order to make it.
I am so sorry this happened. You are correct; we send invitations to everyone that we send Save the Date cards to.
Some people have been trashing 'etiquette' lately because they think that it is just some pompous set of rules that some high collared person made up somewhere a long time ago. However, this is an example of what happens when people don't even try to find out what is acceptable and is the typical protocol in this situation. People get hurt.
I wish she would have asked us or read a book. I'm sure you are not the only person hurt by this. So sorry. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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