Our daughter and fiance' planned on being married in 2010. He is in the Navy, stationed in Japan. They don't want to be apart for 2 yrs so will be married when he comes home for leave in Dec with a very small family service. They still plan on having their "big wedding" in 2010 when they return from Japan. How do we announce their marriage to close friends and extended family, but also let them know they weren't excluded from the "formal wedding" still planned in 2010?
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Sep 5, 2008, 8:58 AM
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If your daughter and her fiance get married, then they are having a "real wedding". Technically, the result of a wedding is a marriage. So, they are either married, or not. There is no such thing as two weddings for the same couple, unless they divorce in between.
If they want to be married this December, and want to have the big "tah-dah," then they should plan it for December. If they cannot plan it for December, for whatever reason, then they should wait to have the wedding they want upon the groom's return. What better way to celebrate his safe homecoming than with a huge wedding with all the trimmings?
Alternatively, they could be married and then, within one year, host a wedding reception. But, this is a reception with fewer "trimmings".
Unfortunately, we all have to make choices and sacrifices.
Please thank your future son-in-law and daughter for the sacrifices they are making for our country. We wish him a safe return home.
God bless all of you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 5, 2008, 9:45 AM
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I completely agree. Great advice.
We have very many posts about this. It may help to read them. You may find out that this is a very common situation. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Small Wedding Now/Formal Wedding in 2010
