Wedding Announcement - Just a little earlier than the wedding?
I have scoured this forum for an exact answer to my question and although I am very clear on the fact that announcements should go out on the day of or immediately after the wedding, I have a dilemma. My fiance is from a small town and things are done differently there. His Mom really wants to send announcements to certain people that are not invited about 2 weeks before the wedding. I expressed my concern gently and she seems very set that it should be done prior. She is not being demanding, very sweet actually and does not wish to step on toes, but since she and my future fil are paying for a large portion of the wedding I feel that I should appease her.
My solution is to prepare announcements from his parents announcing his marriage to me and send these out per her wishes two weeks early, and also prepare separate announcements for my family & friends and put those in the mail on the morning of the wedding. Is this terribly bad? If she says this is how things are done where she is from I trust her and would like to please her.
Thank you in advance!
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Re: Wedding Announcement - Just a little earlier than the wedding?
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Dear Skfs,
This shouldn't be done anywhere. She is probably confusing mailed announcements with newspaper announcements, which are posted before the wedding. We never send announcements before the wedding. It is like saying, "Na Na Na Na Na Na, you don't get to go, but it is going to be fun." Plus, only those who need to know receive these. If she sends announcements to those who are her friends, but barely know her son and don't know you, it could appear as if she is begging for gifts.
Please try to inform her of what is considered proper. You could state that this is written in every etiquette book out there.
Announcements are sent after the wedding, not the day of before the wedding--always afterward and to only those who really need to know.
Wedding Announcement - Just a little earlier than the wedding?
