I would like to send wedding invitations to close relatives (Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, 1st Cousins) only. In our newspaper, I would like to word the announcement..."no local invitations will be sent. Friends and Family are invited."
My future daughter-in-law thinks I should send an invitation to EVERYONE for a keepsake.
I am afraid if I start sending invitations to those who live in our hometown that I will leave someone out. We have so many acquaintances who may or may not come to the wedding but if I send a wedding invitation I am afraid they will feel obligated to send a gift.
Please advise!
Thank you
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Re: [Ga Mom of Groom] Wedding Invitations for Out-of-Town Guests Only?
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Dear MOG,
A wedding is no longer a social event for parents. It is supposed to be an event for the couple. I have heard of some small communities where an announcement is listed in the paper and the entire community is invited. This is fine if it is an open church ceremony with a simple reception for all guests afterward.
But, it is proper to send invitations to all guests. You must then be a host to all guests.
If this is an open church wedding, it is proper to host a simple reception afterward at the church. The couple could host a very small (immediate family only) dinner later.
Traditionally, unless you are the host, which means you are paying for the entire event, the couple makes all of the decisions. However, these days, the couple would be making their decisions because parental involvement is optional. So, it is best to allow them to make the final choices.
I have heard of some small communities where an announcement is listed in the paper and the entire community is invited. This is fine if it is an open church ceremony with a simple reception for all guests afterward.
As you described, this is the type of wedding they are planning. So there would be no need to send invitations to EVERYONE. Thank you.
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Please remember that if all are invited to the wedding, then all are invited to the reception. This could be costly. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Wedding Invitations for Out-of-Town Guests Only?
