Wording and sending wedding announcements to business associates
My husband wants to send out "wedding announcements" to his business associates and vendors of our son's wedding.I know they are to be sent out the day of or after the wedding.I need help with the wording. Also since these are announcements and not invitations can I print out the addresses on clear labels? Is it a good idea to send out the announcements where they are getting married so they will be post marked w/the city and state (they are getting married in another state)?
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Mar 8, 2006, 10:12 AM
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Dear MOG,
Do these people really need to know? Only those who do business with or are close to your son need to know of his new status. Although wedding annoucements are not a plea for gifts, business associates who receive one and are not close to your son may wonder why they are receiving one if not to send a gift. Many people contact me asking me this question each week.
The traditional wording is:
Mr. and Mrs. James Walker
have the honour of
announcing the marriage of
Cheryl Rae Walker
to their son
Mr. Timothy Earle Jones
Date
Location
You are sending these, so use your address. No one will be sending gifts, so they don't need the address of the couple or any other address.
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Et.byRebecca With all due respect…These business associates would be doing the sending, I'm sure out of courtesies and thoughtfulness because they’d want show their recognition of this special event in my husband’s life. And you are right they or most don't know my son but they would want to send gifts to the newlyweds out of respect for my husband who deals on a day to day basis with these associates and vendors so I’m sure they would feel honored to send gifts to my son and my daughter n love. Therefore I think this is the reason “Many people contact you asking you this question each week”. We as parents are excited and want to share this event with people who would just want to know and not feel obligated to attend. So in short these announcements are for My Husband (us parents). MOG
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I believe Rebecca was saying that people contact her wondering why they receive weddng announcements for people they do not know or have relationships with. Many people come to this forum asking if the wedding announcement obligates them to send a gift. And, of course, we reply that it doesn't, but they still seem to feel obligated to send. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Mar 8, 2006, 3:34 PM
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So, you are sending these announcements expecting gifts? And, none of these people are invited to the wedding and reception? Yet, these people are important to your business and would feel 'honored' to give presents to someone they don't know because they respect your husband? This isn't proper by any standard I am aware of. An announcement is not supposed to be used in this manner.
I do receive many letters from many people wondering why they receive announcements and many of them feel pressured to send a gift, not 'honored'. Sending announcements with this attitude would most likely have the same result. It just may reflect negatively on you.
Please read more about etiquette in general. I do not make up any of this. You can read what is considered appropriate in any etiquette book. I would like to suggest Emily Post's Etiquette, by Peggy Post or New Manners for New Times, by Letitia Baldrige. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Mar 9, 2006, 8:49 PM
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Dear Forum Moderator Thank you for clarifying Rebecca’s question. It was just… her forwardness in her reply… I found to be a bit rude. What ever happened to “kindness” and “consideration” to each other? I asked, what I thought was, a legitimate question. In her accusation reply she didn’t even answer my second question. HOWEVER, an event such as a wedding in my opinion is to be announced. The receiver can say a little prayer/blessing, send a congratulation card (that can be purchased for as little as fifty cent), or if they feel “obligated” to send a gift, a gift card to a coffee shop for the “hot couple” just for example, or they can trash it. For those who have not had the pleasure of knowing the newlyweds, a simple acknowledgement i.e. “your dad has been a good friend to me” “Congratulations to you both”. I know one thing for sure Rebecca’s reply to me was not “proper” this is the first time and I will think twice before getting on website to ask for advice. For whatever it’s worth I was hurt by her unkind remarks. Although my husband says to… give her the benefit of the doubt and that she was just having a bad day. So, Rebecca “this to shall pass” and I am sorry for getting you upset. Thank you for traditional wording of the announcement. Though, I may… make it untraditional by adding at the bottom … (The couple’s names) now reside at (their address). MOG
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This is your opinion however, opinion is not the focus of this website. The purpose of this site is to provide responses considered to be proper by modern etiquette standards and experts such as Peggy Post. The answer you were given is what is considered proper. Feel free to read a few wedding etiquette books, such as Bride's Book of Etiquette, to see what they say. You can choose to follow the advice, or not.
Since the answer to you was that it is not appropriate to send these announcements, I think how you label them became a moot point.
PS - when communicating on the internet in a forum such as this, or in email, you should use caution in determining how words are meant since you cannot hear the inflection in a voice. I do not believe Rebecca was being rude - but just stating a fact. Please note that none of our experts receive any monetary compensation for the time we spend answering and educating so they have no agenda but to give proper advice.
I wish you well. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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