My brother recently got married at his house in a very private wedding, only inviting a few close friends. None of the family was invited, not even parents, and they were right down the street. The mother wants to send announcements to the family, which is quite large, and local. The newlyweds are in favor and would like presents to arrive, but they've stated that they will not attend a wedding shower. Presents may be sent to their house, but they will not attend a party. The mother and I, the sister, are concerned that the announcement may really offend. It relates, "there was a wedding, but you weren't invited." We could possibly say they eloped, but we couldn't give a location, since it divulges how close everyone was. Many will assume that they just weren't in the in-crowd, not realizing the whole extended family didn't rate. Should the mother send announcements? The couple has been very anti-family. Maybe the couple should send the announcements. Could you please let us know what is appropriate, and please provide some desirable wording options if it is appropriate for the mother to send the announcements? We will really appreciate it. Thank you.
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Re: [far away sister] announcing a private wedding without offending
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Sending a wedding announcement does not obligate the recipient to send a gift or attend any event - it is as the name implies - they are announcing that they were married. Parents don't announce - the couple would send these. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
announcing a private wedding without offending
