I feel I am (have put myself) in a tricky situation and am looking for any help and advice I can get.
My family is GINORMOUS (about 300). Due to financial and sanity constraints, as well as going with our dream wedding, my fiance and I have decided to have a small intimate wedding of only 40, inviting only close family and friends. Realizing our decision to not invite all family members might cause tension, we have only announced our engagement to those being invited.
1. is it proper etiquette not to announce engagement to those uninvited? If not, how do we announce our engagement and also let the entire family know that only some are being invited? (it might be important to note that I am Chinese and am breaking both cultural and family traditions).
2. my fiance and i will be sending wedding announcements to those that were not invited after our wedding (2007). How do we go about getting mailing addresses to send out the wedding announcements? My parents do not have an up to date list of addresses, and I don't want to put them in an uncomfortable position of having to deal with upset family members.
Thanks, lost bride
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jul 3, 2006, 11:21 AM
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Re: [mml] getting mailing addresses for announcements
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Dear Lost,
You can announce your engagement verbally to those not invited and add that it will be a very small wedding. You wouldn't be sending written announcements of this. If there is an engagement party, only those invited to the wedding can be invited.
Typically your parents would have the addresses of family who need to know. Since they do not, I suppose you will have to call for addresses.
getting mailing addresses for announcements
