I'm getting married and my fiance and I are hosting the wedding but limited to the number of people we can invite.
My problem is, my mother is deceased and my father has remarried. How can I include MY parents in the announcement without including my step-mother ... she and I aren't close. But I don't want to be rude
Since some of the announcements are going to my fathers friends (and moms) - can I just put Mr. John Doe has the pleasure of announcing the marriage of his daughter or any other suggestion ... that includes my biological parents or father.
Looking for the best advise ... (wedding invites are our names and added, together with their families request the honour of your presence .... )
This is for wedding announcement - after the fact. I already came up with wording for the invitations ... "together with their families" ... but for the announcements, I wanted to some how include my father only - not step mother but don't want to be rude either. (if I could include my mother - who is deceased that is even better).
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Unfortunately there isn't a good template for including your mother's name, as those who are deceased cannot announce. But, you could use only your father's name.
If you wanted to use a different format with your names announcing, we may be able to make it work. But, it could appear a bit cluttered. Your name could be listed first with: daughter of Mr. John Doe and the late Mrs. Jane Doe. Your husband's name is listed second with an 'and' in between your names. His parents are listed under his name as: son of... . Then you could write: would like to announce our marriage...
This way your parents are not announcing. You are.
And please remember that only those who are very close and need to know should receive these. Even though an announcement is not a plea for gifts, sometimes it may appear as if they are if sent to those not close.
thank you for the reply ... i think i see what you are saying. and my fiances mother is also deceased but his father hasn't remarried ... so I think it could get wordy.
one question, would it be rude if I said my name, followed by daughter of Mr. Joe Doe (and not include my stepmother) - is that rude to not do Mr. and Mrs?
If it isn't rude to exclude my stepmother and not do, Mr. and Mrs. Joe Doe .... then could I make the announcement from my father only --
Mr. John Doe has the pleasure of announcing the marriage of his daughter .....
and I agree with you with the announcement but most are going to his contemporaries so that is why i was trying to include him somehow.
thank you again
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It really isn't rude to include only your father's name as he is your father and she isn't your mother. You didn't live with her and don't consider her a mother.
It is fine to use the sample you chose. It is all good. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Feel free to post new questions. However, please DO post with proper formatting so we can read and understand quickly. No more... and incomplete sentences and such. It makes the post difficult to read.
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wedding announcement - step parents
thank you - I feel better. 