Our son and his fiancee sent out Save the Date cards for their July wedding in Tobago, which seem to have had the opposite effect. Our friends have been calling and emailing to say they will not be able to attend. Ordinarily everyone who receives a Save the Date card also receives a wedding invitation. I don't want to obligate our friends and since I know who may come, who will come, and who won't come, may my husband and I send out engraved wedding announcements after the wedding to the last category of friends, if the 1st and 2d groups receive invitations sent by the bride's parents? Our family members who are not able to come would still receive a wedding invitation. If you suggest that we send wedding announcements, what is the correct wording? Should the bride's parents' address be the return address on the envelope flap? Where would the newly married couple's new name and address appear, in case anyone wishes to send a present? With thanks, Dingo
Your question was a bit difficult to understand. So, I'll just give you all of the etiquette involved with invitations and announcements--the who, what, and when.
All guests who received save the date cards receive invitations. These should be sent by the couple. All those who did not receive save the dates and must know about the marital status may be sent wedding announcements. These are typically sent by the couple these days, although the bride's parents sent them in the past.
I suppose you may send announcements to your family if they must know. However, these are never a plea for gifts. The couple's new address may be included if these are also doubling for change of address notices.
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