My parents are paying for most of our wedding and we have agreed that, because alcohol is being served, no one under the age of 19 will be invited (19 is the legal drinking age in Canada). However, the only exception we have made is my fiance's sister who is 16 because she is in the wedding party, and my brother, who is 17, because he's my brother. At my fiance's cousin's wedding there was an issue with parents buying their underage children alcohol so we would like to invite only those of legal drinking age. What is the proper etiquette on invitation wording for this. From what I have read "Adult Reception Immediately Following" is proper, but then I have read elsewhere that this isn't proper. The other issue we run into is there are some of my fiance's cousins who are 17 and 18, and I am worried they will be offended that they are not invited.
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Dear Amcs,
We never mention "adults only" or "no children" on our invitations. It is considered impolite. We simply don't invite them. Their names are not mentioned. We also try to spread the word of our intentions. This may help with the cousins who are younger. But, it may also help not to invite any cousins.
The biggest problem I see is that you mention people paying for their drinks. This is not polite or proper. A host provides the entire party. A guest should never have to open his or her wallet.
It is best to provide what you can afford to provide.
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I did not mention anything about having my guests paying for alcohol. I said that at my fiance's cousins wedding there was an issue with parents buying their underage children alcohol.
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I did not mention anything about having my guests payomh for alcohol. I said that my fiances cousins wedding there was an issue with parents buying their underage children alcohol.
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amcs
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Yes "parents buying" alcohol at my fiances COUSIN's wedding. Parents of younger children (14 and up) buying them alcohol. They had a cash bar at their wedding, we are not having one at mine.
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Rebecca was addressing what happened at your cousin's wedding. Remember, other bride's and users are also reading these posts. So, we address any etiquette faux pas.
Note that the banquet facility or venue and the manager should be diligent when serving alcohol. Ask the facility how they handle these issues, which are obviously illegal. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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