Adding a different RSPV date for out of town guests
We are in the process of mailing the invitations soon. My daughter’s fiancé has several family members out of the area that he would like to send out about a month earlier than the rest to allow them time to make arrangements if they would be able to attend. We are planning to send out the majority of the invitations during the first week of October. The RSVP date is November 1. He would like to add a note in the invitations to these early mail outs (beginning of September) if they could respond by October 1. He doesn’t feel many of them would be able come, so he would like to know early on so we can mail out additional invitations at the beginning of October.
I’m not sure if this is proper to do or how to handle this. Please help!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Aug 27, 2007, 12:48 PM
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Re: [MOB07] Adding a different RSPV date for out of town guests
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Dear MOB,
It would have been better to let these guests know verbally or by save the date much earlier than September if they have to travel. The invitations really shouldn't be sent out before two months prior to the wedding.
But, this isn't a major etiquette breach--very minor. However, it just may appear as if the couple wishes to know, very early, if these guests can attend, so they can invite others in their place.
The couple really should be sending the invitations.
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My daughter and her fiance had planned to send save the date cards to these guests, but never did. I'm not sure if his family verbally told these relatives about the up coming wedding. Should I advise them not to send these particular invitations this early? Or would be better to contact the relatives verbally at this time?
Thank you for your help.
Etiquette Now
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Aug 27, 2007, 1:09 PM
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If it were me, I'd contact them verbally now and let them know the invitations will be arriving soon. This is more polite. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
MOB07
Aug 27, 2007, 1:17 PM
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I will suggest this to them to let them know this is more polite. Thank you for your help!
Adding a different RSPV date for out of town guests
