Addressing invitations to couples when only one is a friend
I tried to find an answer to this but with no luck. I have several woman friends at work that I would like to invite to my wedding but some of them I have never met their husbands. Is it still proper to address the envelope as Mr. and Mrs. John Price or Mr. and Mrs. Price. Do I have to use the husbands name? If so, what if I don't know it? How do I find out with out embarrassing myself since I'm sure they have talked about their husbands? I don't care if they bring their husband to the wedding I'm just not sure how to address the envelope to them.
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Aug 29, 2007, 1:04 PM
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Re: [isabo] Addressing invitations to couples when only one is a friend
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Dear Isabo,
If these were people you didn't talk to everyday, you could simply list your guest's name on the outer envelope and list 'and guest or escort' on the inner. But, you see them everyday and could ask the name of their husband--this is the most proper. We always try to list names if at all possible.
You could try what I do all of the time. You could tell them that you are having a senior moment and can't remember their husband's name. Works for me.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] Addressing invitations to couples when only one is a friend
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actually I don't see them every day and only talk to them now once in a while as my job has taken me to a different dept. BUT I can probably still inquire or maybe ask a co-worker of theirs. Thanks for the advice!
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Aug 29, 2007, 2:29 PM
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If you don't see them and you don't really have a relationship with them anymore it isn't necessary to invite the co-workers. It's actually sometimes seen as impolite since it can appear as you're inviting them only for the gift. But note that Peggy Post says in her newest book that recipients of wedding invitations are only obligated to send a gift if they attend. If they aren't attending then they can use their discretion and only send a gift if they are lose with the couple. This is keeping brides from padding their guests lists - which is not what I think you'ree doing here. Just making mention... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
isabo
Aug 29, 2007, 2:56 PM
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Thanks again for the info. I'm 41 yrs old and this is my second marriage so it's really not about the gifts.. it's about friends and family and sharing our joy together. These gals have been very close in the past 6 years and we have been through a lot together! I feel that they are good friends and I would like to share my special day with them. :-)
Addressing invitations to couples when only one is a friend
