Adult Only Ceremony/Reception/After-Gathering Events
Our wedding is coming up soon...it is an out of state wedding, but not far from home for most guests. The guests are all aware this is an adult wedding and there will be no persons at any of the wedding festivities under the age of 21.
There is the ceremony, reception, after-gathering, and morning-after-brunch.
The after-gathering will be held at the home of future in-laws (at night) but some of the guests whom have children will be lodging at this particular home as well as be there for the after-gathering.
I just learned that a few of these guests lodging at the home of the after-gathering have decided to bring their children. But i've been told the children will not be attending either the wedding, or the after-gathering, and the children will most likely be asleep upstairs in bed at that point in time.
But my question is; why couldn't they find childcare (as they have in recent past to go away on overnight stays), and how should they be informed there is still no children invited to the morning-after-brunch?
I personally feel that out of the 90% of guests whom have tried very hard to find childcare for their own children and have succeeded, why can't these particular guests? Why do they have be the exception? And won't the other parents attending the after gathering's feel insulted if they happen to see these children at the gathering if they aren't asleep, or attend the brunch? And what about the bride's feelings and anxioty having now found this out? Please, what is the right thing to do here? ps. This does not bother the groom, nor do i think he understands the concept or appropriateness of it.
Sincerely, Autumn
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: Adult Only Ceremony/Reception/After-Gathering Events
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Dear Autumn,
You can only hope they will find child care when it is mentioned again that children are not invited. But, if they are lodging at this home overnight, it may be difficult for them to leave their children somewhere else. It really is the groom's parent's responsibility, though, to allow or not allow children in their home. If they don't have a problem with it, then it is a moot point. After all, they are the hosts.
Please remember that all wedding guests should be invited to the "after party".
Adult Only Ceremony/Reception/After-Gathering Events
ps. This does not bother the groom, nor do i think he understands the concept or appropriateness of it. 
