Announcements versus invites for international wedding
I have a unique situation and a question regarding invitations versus announcements.
I am from the U.S., and my fiance is originally from south Asia (he lives in the U.S.). We have scheduled a traditional cultural wedding in my fiance's home country because he has assured me that it will be much more special than an American wedding.
Because of the long journey and cost involved in making the trip, not everyone in my family wants to or can attend the wedding. International travel is always uncomfortable, so although I want my family to attend the wedding, I am happy if some people don't go because I fear if they did not have a good time then I wouldn't be able to enjoy my wedding, and I only want people at our wedding who support us 100%. (Some other family members have been unsupportive about the wedding.) After returning from the wedding, we also plan to have another reception in the U.S. so that family members who are not traveling to the wedding are not left out.
Because of the cost involved in people traveling to the wedding, and possible problems with international travel, I am fine with the few people who are traveling with me to the wedding. I plan to send formal invitations to the ones who are definitely traveling and attending; however, I would prefer to send announcements (instead of invitations) to all other people in my family. I don't want them thinking they are actually invited or that we expect them to travel to the wedding! Is it appropriate to send invites to those people who are attending and only announcements to all others?
I am cross-posting this same question in the "announcements" category.
Thanks, Announcements versus invites
TWQadmin
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Jul 16, 2004, 5:12 PM
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Re: [meliha] Announcements versus invites for international wedding
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Your question has been answered here:
Destination Wedding Invitations Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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meliha
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Jul 16, 2004, 5:53 PM
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That doesn't exactly apply, and I don't think you understood the nature of my question.
1) I want most of my family to be involved but ONLY in the american reception version (or if we do another ceremony in the U.S. later) that will come later. (Only 2 family members will be involved in the version going to the other country.)
2) I want to keep my family in the loop on our international wedding, but I don't actually WANT most of them to attend. I would rather they be involved in the local reception to be held later.
I don't understand why I should have to send them invites (versus announcements) if all I am doing is basically an FYI of here is when and where our wedding is taking place. If I send them invites as you suggest, how do I know one of them WON'T rsvp or email or call and say, "YES! I would love to attend your wedding in xyz country!", when they open their invite -- I don't want that to happen. I have already chosen who I think can "handle" this trip and who I want to go.
Thanks!
meliha
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Jul 16, 2004, 5:54 PM
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Btw, just to clarify, this is not an exotic destination locale...this is a south Asian country. Not exactly a vacation spot. This is why I have handpicked "who I think can handle it".
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Jul 16, 2004, 6:07 PM
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Re: [meliha] Announcements versus invites for international wedding
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Dear Invites/Announcements,
Yes, you may send announcements, but only after the wedding. Mail them as soon as you return from the wedding.
You could also send "reception only" invitations to all who are invited to the reception here in the states instead of sending them announcements.
Announcements versus invites for international wedding
