My fiance and I have planned a cruise wedding in Florida for next summer. My family is on the east coast and his is on the west coast where we live. This was the ideal situation to keep the guest list small without not inviting anyone. Most people wouldn't be able to come because of the location. Weeks ago we sent out the save the dates to my family. We're sending them in 2 different batches for a reason. Our families don't communicate..its complicated. His relatives know of our plans but no specifics yet. So, it gets interesting. A few days ago we completely changed our plans to do a small (less than 50 guests) local wedding and reception here on the west coast. We have some life changes coming up in the near future and can no longer justify the cost of the cruise for ourselves. About a week later we will have a very casual reception/party at his parents house. My guest list will stay the same. I have a small family and I know the majority of them wont be able to make it with the travel involved. My fiance however has 90% of his family in the state and now that the wedding will be much closer for them we're expecting everyone to be more willing to come. Another concern is how to deal with my coworkers. I've worked for a small company of about 13 employees for about a year and a half and the group has changed a few times. I posted a save the date for the wedding in Florida for everyone and didnt officially address it to anyone. I'm not sure if I should just let them know about the changes and our wishes to have just family and then invite them to the post wedding reception the following week. They know about the change in location but now they're excited because its closer. Or are they all permanently on the guest list? I've become close with some of them and would like to invite a few to the ceremony but this is really touchy and I don't want to offend those not invited. We just aren't sure how to go about spreading the news. Do we wait until we have things finalized and send out the new save the dates? Our original guest list is about 110. How do we go about not inviting everyone on his side when everyone knows each other?
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Aug 18, 2008, 7:20 PM
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Re: Change of location and guest list
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Dear Rb,
This really isn't different than any other wedding with a reception that is held later. You invite those you wish to attend to both. This includes workmates and family that you are not close to--very simple. The biggest problem is with the people for whom you already sent save the dates. We don't disinvite, but since you have changed your plans, you can let them know that your plans have changed. You are obligated to send a personalized note stating this.
It is best not to post generic invitations to the entire workplace for any event that isn't work related. Now that you have, it is best to post another notice stating that your plans have changed including an apology.
Change of location and guest list
