College friend invited me to wedding but not my significant other
I recently received an invitation to a wedding for two of my good friends from college that was addressed to me alone, and did not invite my live-in boyfriend of seven years. Both the bride and groom know that he and I live together, and they both know him very well. In fact, my boyfriend and I have been together longer than the couple who is getting married, and the bride has known my boyfriend longer than she has known her fiance!
I have asked other friends invited to the wedding about this, and they have told me that the bride said that she could not afford to invite everyone's boyfriends to the wedding. I can understand that money can be an issue, as money is the only reason that my boyfriend and I have not yet married (I am in law school and we are living on his salary alone), but I feel that he is more than just "my boyfriend" and that our relationship is being devalued simply because we have chosen not to marry just yet.
I don't want to simply turn down the invitation, but I also don't want to upset her or stress her out more than she already is as her wedding approaches. What should I do? Thank you so much for your help.
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Re: College friend invited me to wedding but not my significant other
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Dear Legalchick,
Love the screen name, by the way.
This is yet another reason why people should get their advice from places other than chat rooms. It is considered in very poor taste to invite a guest and not that person's significant other. The monetary reason is not valid, as they could have simply cut the list or her other costs.
Only you can make this decision. But, the invitation doesn't obligate you to attend. This is always a choice.
College friend invited me to wedding but not my significant other
