My fiance and I are hosting our own wedding. we didn't ask our parents to give us anything and they didn't offer (we figured we are 30 years old and both in our careers, we should be able to pay for our own wedding). Everything thus far has been done by us. My parents (the bride's parents) are offering several thousand $$'s to us which is very generous, which may end up being a gift after the wedding (they aren't very clear what they want us to do with this $$). By no means, are my parents hosting the wedding. My fiance and I are working really hard to pay for everything our selves and are proud of that. We plan on putting both sets of parents' names on the wedding invitations to honor them.
My mother (the MOB) wants to know why the RSVP cards aren't coming to her. She thinks her address should be on the response envelopes. I explained to my mother that i need to get the RSVP's since I am the one in contact with the caterer, making place cards and keeping track of numbers. Why would she get the RSVP cards? Am I missing a tradition?
Need help...frustrated!
Thank you,
KPEANUT
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: Couple paying for wedding. Who receives RSVP's?
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Dear KPEANUT,
Traditionally, responses would have gone to your mother, as her and your father would have been host. But, this is not the case anymore, especially in your case. The responses should go to the person keeping track of them, which would be you.
Couple paying for wedding. Who receives RSVP's?
