Our son is NOT inviting 10 cousins that he grew up with to his big wedding BUT he IS inviting the SIX younger cousins on my (his mother's ) side.
To his Father and me it is embarrassing, it's a BIG doo dah - and the FEELINGS that will be forever hurt for NOT inviting them - well,
I wonder what me son will say to his COUSINS at MY funeral one day????? i didn't invite you because.......
We feel he is ill advised by a "wedding planner" that must be as naive as he.
Since his cousins live nearby, we feel it is a nobrainer.
Thankyou.
Renee
Many funerals and weddings have been shared. They are family.
The bride has decided NOT to invite HER cousins. Fine.
We as his parents are EMBARRASSED
what are we to say?
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May 29, 2007, 9:03 AM
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Your son and his fiance are the hosts and get to choose the guest list. Aparently the groom doesn't feel as close to these relatives as you think he does, or should. All you can do is to speak to him gently about his choice. I wouldn't go into the funeral issue (as you have here) since that will only inflame the situation since the issue at hand is a wedding guest list and really can't/shouldn't be compared to a funeral. I understand you're frustrated but do try to speak calmly to your son and his future wife. Let them try to understand why you feel the way you do and then let the chips fall where they may. They are adults now and should be allowed to make their own decisions, no matter how wrong you feel they are.
If you're asked by family members about the guest list refer them to your son because he is the host and the person who made the list.
I wish you peace. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 29, 2007, 12:19 PM
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I couldn't agree more. All of us are closer to some family than to others. We should be allowed to invite only those to whom we are very close.
I'm sorry that you feel embarrassed, but there really is no reason to be. The wedding isn't about the parents these days. It is all about the couple. It isn't a reflection, positive or negative, on you.
A little side note: please do not use all-caps in your emails or posts. It means the same as yelling and could be considered as an insult to those who read it. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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