We are having a reception for 150 guests, so it's fairly small. My sister-in-law has been distant and not involved with the family for quite some time. When she learned of the reception, she immediately said she would attend and would bring 15 people. She has 6 kids; 4 of whom are married with children. I believe that if we send her an invitation, the invitation is for her and her husband and any other children living with her (safe to assume a total of 4 guests), but any that have moved out and are married would warrant a separate invitation. We don't even know her kids names, much less their spouses or their childrens names. Adding her to the list, would mean removing more important people that we really wanted to attend. What should I do?
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As an aside, 150 guests isn't really a small wedding.
I can't tell how this woman is related to you, but if you aren't close with her and don't want to invite her, then don't. Call or send her an email/letter explaining the size limits and space constraints and apologize for not being able to extend her an invitation. She should never have assumed she would be invited , but again, from your post I can't tell how she heard or how you know that she said she would be attending.
Inviting only her and her husband could be done if you're not inviting other children to the wedding. If you want to invite the sister-in-law, her husband and children living at home, find out the names of those children and list the names on the inner envelope, thus implying only those people are invited. That would limit them to 4 invitations.
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According to proper etiquette, the only ones invited are listed on the invitation envelope. So if you want her and husband and 2 kids, put only thier names on the envelope. If she responds otherwise, you can do as the TWQ has suggested. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com and http://www.coordinatorscorner.com
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I completely agree. Only invite those you wish to attend and if she suggests, again, that she will bring her own guests, inform her of your constraints.
Jeez, I wish more people knew how to be good guests Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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