I have a friend that is getting married in a week and I was wondering if there was some sort of protocol on guest restriction for a wedding. On the invitations that she sent to single people, she did not include the phrase "and guest". Now that it is so close to the wedding some of her guest have ask if they can bring a date, or a friend and she told them no. This has caused a few hurt feelings, and some people have even asked to be scratched off her guest list. My friend is a stickler for etiquette so I was curious to know is there a rule of etiquette in such a case as this?
Only the names of those listed on the inner envelope (or, if there is no inner envelope, the outer envelope) are invited.
Your friend obviously wanted to include you but may have had a limit to the number of guests she could afford to invite or wanted to invite. There would be no easy way for her to include additional guests to the list at this late date, even if she could or wanted to, since the caterer must be notified of the final headcount in advance. Please do consider that there may be many of these friends who are asking at this late date to bring along a date.
Please let your friends know for future reference that unless specifically mentioned on their invitation they may not bring a guest; asking to do so is not being courteous to their host.
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Guest Restriction Proper Etiquette?
