Hi, my son is planning a December wedding where there have been 200 guest spots reserved.
He told me last month that we have 75 guests spots for our family (not sure why so few but I'm trying to not rock any boats) of which he already has 59 family and friends listed. He asked me for any additional names to add to our list, telling me not to exceed the 75 total. I gave him the names of fourteen additional guests, including four couples that are close friends of mine, and he told me that he would edit those names because he and his fiancee do not want anyone at the wedding they do not know.
I am very close to those he wants to exclude. I feel that, considering the number of guests allocated, and the fact that I am contributing $2500 for the beverages at the reception, that it is unfair for him to not permit me to invite my close friends. I am certainly not pushing the numbers, nor am I inviting anyone who is a mere acquaintance. I simply cannot believe that my friends would be excluded on the basis that he feels he does not know them.
Sorry mom, but it's the couple's party and they have the right to share their intimate event with anyone they choose. Your contribution is very generous, but it doesn't entitle you to invite people YOU like. Your friends aren't necessarily his friends. Same goes for family members you haven't seen in a hundred years.
Typically the wedding guest list is split into thirds. One third for bride and groom, one third for groom's parents and one third for bride's parents, but this is flexible depending on the couple. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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