How to exclude extended family from wedding invitations
My husband and I raised my niece (she is now 30). She is getting married for the first time and we are contributing towards the wedding and she and her fiance are paying for the rest. The guest list is limited and my husbands aunts and uncles (totalling 8 + guests) are not on the list as they had little to do with her when she was growing up and she has not seen them in years. This will cause a big political commotion within the family as most family parties have been pot luck with everyone invited (we have to rent a hall at Christmas to accomodate everyone). Our niece is having a formal wedding and reception and we are in a quandry. She says if she invites any it would only be 4 that actually talked with her at family functions many years ago. It would be very difficult to invite some and not all as the aunts and uncles are very close and feelings would be hurt. How do we handle letting these people know that space is limited and they are not invited when they ask when the date is? Should we have a BBQ after the fact and invite all or does that just say that they weren't important enough to be invited to the wedding? My father in law is one of 12 children so there are lots of aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.
Please help!
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Re: [Lori D] How to exclude extended family from wedding invitations
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Dear Lori,
This is very typical. Hosts can only afford to invite a limited amount of guests. Plus, only those close to the couple are usually invited, unless budget is not an issue. So, if some ask, you could inform them that the couple had a limited budget and hosted a small wedding. Ultimately, they create the guest list based on their budget and preferences for those they wish to share their day.
It is your choice to host a second reception as long as the couple is agreeable.
How to exclude extended family from wedding invitations
