I do not want to invite my half brother and his family to our reception (we are not having a ceremony), but my mother is very persistent that I do.
My brother and I have not spoken in many years and we were never close even growing up. he is very violent, physically and verbally, and is involved with drugs and heavy drinking.
I understand my mother's desire for me to invite him because she says "no matter what, he's your brother", but I disagree. I know this is going to be an issue with my mother, but I can't make her understand that we cannot invite someone who may be violent, abusive or intoxicated.
Should i respect my mother's wish (ignoring my groom) and invite him, knowing there will be tension and perhaps violence or inappropriate behavior?
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Just because you were born to the same parent's doesn't mean you need to take abuse or even be friendly to a sibling. It's great if you can, but your brother goes beyond someone who can be trusted.
I understand your need to please your mother, but you'll have to take an adult stand and explain why you cannot invite your brother to the reception. (You say there will be NO ceremony? I'm assuming you mean you will have a private ceremony). Tell her that you're sorry, but there is no discussing it.
I hope she can understand your position. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. The only reason abusive people can remain so is that they are given the chance. It is perfectly fine and polite to say no way, not me. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
I don't want to invite my brother to my wedding
