If the response to a save the date is no, is an invite necessary?
I sent out save the dates for my wedding about 10 months ahead of time (it coincided with a holiday weekend)...and a subsequent letter detailing the wedding weekend activities. One of our friends asked my maid of honor if we would be upset if she didn't attend as she had a family function that conflicted with our wedding. Since we knew she wasn't planning to attend we didn't bother to send her an invitation. She has since told my maid of honor she was upset that she didn't receive one. Did we do the appropriate thing?
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Aug 25, 2004, 2:41 PM
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Re: [Mrs.Washington] If the response to a save the date is no, is an invite necessary?
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Dear Mrs. Washington,
These things are so delicate, aren't they? So sorry that your friend is upset. It should have been fine because you knew that she couldn't attend. However, the most appropriate action would have been to send her an invitation even though you knew she couldn't attend. We send invitations to those we know can't attend because of the distance involved just out of respect. This is no different. Talk to your friend; she will recover.
If the response to a save the date is no, is an invite necessary?
