My future in-laws divorced when my fiance was in high school. Neither is currently remarried. His father has recently started dating a woman. We don't know if they will still be together at the time of the wedding.
My fiance's mother has been engaged to a man for 5+ years (he has been around even longer than I have) they live together, however have just never actually tied the knot or set a date to do so. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding (thank you Mom & Dad!), however, my future mother in-law is generously contributing some of her own money, and much time and effort in helping us plan and make our wedding special.
Because they are both contributing so much, we wish to include both my parents and my fiance's mother on the invitations as hosts. Since he is not involved in the wedding hosting in any way, we decided to place my fiance's father's name under my fiance's with "also son of" as a prefix.
My question is, since they are not married, are we obligated to include his mother's fiance's name on the invitations. He did not come into the picture until my fiance was an adult, so he doesn't consider him as a father figure or anything. However, since his mother and this man do live together, they share expenses and income, so technically I suppose a portion of their joint income is being contributed to our wedding.
What makes everything a bit more confusing is that my fiance, his mother, his father, and his mother's fiance all have different last names, so it will not be obvious who is who based on people's names. I really don't want to offend (or confuse) anyone. I'm just not sure what proper etiquette is in this situation.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Oct 9, 2007, 3:34 PM
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Re: [X-Cited] Include Fiance's Mother's Fiancee's Name?
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Dear X-Cited,
It was nice to thank your parents on your post. Thank you.
This is a difficult one, because they are sharing expenses. So, how can we separate out the money that your future mother in law is contributing from what he is covering in the absence of it in their household. Thus, it would seem most appropriate to include his name.
But, this doesn't mean that you absolute have to. Perhaps you could ask your future mother in law if he would like to be listed as co-host. If not, then it is easy. If so, then there will be a lot of names on the invitation.
This could be your invitation:
Mr. and Mrs. Your Parents
and
Ms. Your Fiance's Mother
Mr. Her Partner
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of
There are a lot of names here, but at least everyone is mentioned.
Include Fiance's Mother's Fiancee's Name?
