Hi there. I am the MOB and I have a question regarding the wedding invitation. Our daughter wants to incorporate a monogram initial in the middle of the wedding invitation. I say that it should be the letter in "our" last name, since she is not married yet. She wants the letter of the last name of the groom, in the middle. The announcement that she has picked out says, along with our parents, (list of our names, and the grooms parents, we (bride and grooms names) so on, and so on. This is a formal wedding and her father and I are footing the bill on it but we are at a stand still on the monogram intial part. Call me old fashioned, but I think she should not use the initial untill after the ceremony. What do you say?
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Dear Hairtopleaseu2,
Today's monograms are customized, which is appropriate since monograms on invitations isn't traditional. So, she can do whatever she wishes. This is also appropriate, since even though you are "footing the bill", these days, parents are no longer financially responsible, so they also don't have planning 'rights'. The couple makes all decisions.
Traditionally, the bride's first initial and second would be first and second, with the groom's first initial, as the last, would be listed on napkins. But, it would be different on different items. So, as you see, an invitation could be whatever your daughter wishes.
Actually, monograms on invitations could be confusing for today's guests. It may be best to rethink using them.
Announcements are sent after the wedding. These are different than invitations. So, I'm not sure what you meant when you mentioned them.
Initial for the monogrammed invitations
