Re: [Etiquette Now] Inner envelopes for close family
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Am I correct to think that it is not going to matter which way I have addressed them? As I searched this site, I found somewhere where you had replied to a question and answered that usually the man's name goes first. That is my confusion, as I have not found a consistent answer on this site or elsewhere, and I want to do what's right.
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That would be for addressing the outer envelopes, which is usually more formal than the inner. The inner envelopes don't typically use last names and I believe the reference you;re making is where Rebecca has said that a man is never separated from his last name. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Absolutely. Thank you for making that clearer. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Sep 17, 2007, 12:25 PM
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The post I was referring to was from May 17, 2005 where the question was titled "first names only on inner envelopes". The questions was asked "When writing first names for a couple, which name comes first: the man's or woman's? Are there rules for when not to use first names only?"
It was replied by Rebecca and she stated that first names are fine. But, then she also said this:"Usually the man's name goes first, but we list the person with the greatest title first. So, if the woman is a doctor and her husband is an accountant, the woman is listed first."
That is where I am confused. I assumed she was still referring to the inner envelopes. Maybe I interpreted it incorrectly, and she was referring to the man's name is listed first if you needed a title for the inner envelope?
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It was the word, "usually" that we need to focus on here. It really is a choice these days, especially when it comes to close family and friends.
When not using first names, the man is mentioned first: Mr. and Mrs... . When first names and last names are mentioned, then 'usually' the woman would be mentioned first because the man isn't separated from his last name: Jane and Jake Smith.
In your example, you used family names. Grandma and Grandpa could be listed as you wish. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Inner envelopes for close family
