We are getting married in Jamaica in August. We sent out a wedding website e-mail a few months ago and have the guest list pretty much set. We want to send out real invitation that will double as wedding announcments 2 months prior to the departure date. I found some wording that I loved and now I can not find it again. Can someone PLEASE offer some wording that would be appropriate? We are very casual and want the invitations to reflect that.
The wording said something about "...whether you will be there in person or thought..." or something like that.
I am desperate for wording that will work. I have spent days online trying to find something to no avail.
Thanks a million!
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Re: [mariahbeth] Invitation and announcement combo wording
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Dear Mariahbeth,
It isn't polite to send announcements before a wedding to those not invited or to those you know cannot or will not attend. It is like rubbing it in their face--you will be having fun without them. And, to many it just appears that you want to alert them to the fact that you are marrying and you want a gift from them. So, just send invitations to those you wish to attend and announcements to those who absolutely need to know after the wedding. Announcements are optional, though.
You can use any polite wording you wish for informal invitations. You would want to avoid using any wording that implies gift giving or exclusiveness, such as "adults only".
Be very careful with destination weddings at all inclusive resorts. Most have 'day-fees' for those not staying at the resort who want to attend weddings. You are responsible for the fees of your guests.
The reason that I wanted to sent the "invitations" out to everyone is so that they would not feel like they are not invited. I do not think that they will come just because they are not close to my finance, but given that he is the only son, his parents want to send all of his family an invitation. I dont want any of them to feel like we hold it against them for not coming which is why I like the "present in person or in thought" line. Since the wedding is so non-traditional, I want to give his mom some degree of tradition by letting her invite whom ever she wants and by phrasing the invitations in a way that is still in keeping with traditional wedding verbiage.
So what should I do?
Also, what about the people that I invited by sending them the website that have told me that they can not make it. Do they get a real invitation? It seems like they should, since they are technically invited to the wedding.
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The wording is fine as long as all of these people are really invited to your wedding. No worries there.
Yes, everyone who has been verbally invited receives an invitation. But, since yours is such an informal wedding, you don't have to send formal invitations.
Please be careful inviting so many guests. You may exceed your budget. It does add up. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Invitation and announcement combo wording
We are getting married in Jamaica in August. We sent out a wedding website e-mail a few months ago and have the guest list pretty much set. We want to send out real invitation that will double as wedding announcments 2 months prior to the departure date. I found some wording that I loved and now I can not find it again. Can someone PLEASE offer some wording that would be appropriate? We are very casual and want the invitations to reflect that. 
