My son is getting married in three months. The time came for the invitations and against his wishes they only read the brides parents names. Not ours. My sons fiance and her mother went to order the invites. When they asked what would be appropriate they were asked by the sales person who is paying and her mother answered they were. So the sales person said only their names. Actually they are paying for the reception partially. We are paying for the Flowers, rehearsal dinner, Part of the limos. My son is paying for the DJ and the photographer. We are also paying for other things related to the wedding. Personal aisle runner. etc...
My son is hurt and of course I go beyond that.. The bride did not stick up for me or what my son and her wanted.
Am I wrong in being so upset that my husband and my names will not be on the inivitations as his parents???
I dont know how far to push this issue. It has caused a severe problem between my son and his wife to be. I only want HIS happiness.
Please let me know who is right in this situation.
Hopefully soon only the couple's names will be mentioned as any money given to the couple is supposed to be a gift--parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's wedding. At this point, we still offer a nod to the parents if they contribute.
Now, on to your question. Your names should have been listed on the invitation as much as the parent's of the bride. At the very least you should have been mentioned as the parents of the groom because you are contributing. But, the invitation is only a piece of paper and most guest don't even notice who is 'hosting'. So, it may be best to just let this go. It will say much more about the type of person you are by letting the water flow off your back. I call it 'being the duck'.
I agree with Rebecca, what's done is done, and would like to add a suggestion. Speak to your son about the announcements, if there will be any. If they are printing announcements ask him to be sure that your names get listed there so you can have a nice keepsake. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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